others do with their time. What activites do you guys do, for those with
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Ardeith writes: Miriam, I was diagnosed when I was about thirty.....and I'm
now 63 years old. Your life is not over, by a long shot. I kept a garden
and houseplants for years.....worked at a potting bench sitting on a stool,
and pulled weeds sitting on a milk crate.......but my hip won't let me do
that anymore....
Last year I gave away the last of the orchids and houseplants and gave up
on gardening. If I had flower beds built up chair-high I could still have
pansies and marigolds.....but I don't.......and I can't do the ground-level
stuff anymore.
But I've always done things with my hands.....sewing, sculpting, crochet
work, painting......and even though my hands are swollen in some joints,
locked in others, my meds keep my hands pain free most of the time (my back
and hips are another story)
One trick I learned early on is that paintbrushes, clay tools, and crochet
hooks have to be big and fat or my hands cramp up and ache. So I use
masking tape to make a big lump I can hold without cramps. It gets paint on
it, or clay, and water when I'm working clay....but so what? It's just
masking tape and if it gets too messy I get my Fred to cut it all off and
make another lump.
Oh, yeah...almost forgot.....paint in little bottles can be a trial to
open......there's pliers and a jar opener in my craft drawer.....and a death
threat aimed at anyone who removes them! I keep pliers in my kitchen tool
drawer too.....and knives everywhere! One on my desk, one on my worktable,
one in my purse.....I hate bubble packaging that I can't open! So I
treasure my knives......
I do have to mark the lump with the size of my crochet hooks since the lump
covers the part that has the size on it. I can't knit anymore because
knitting needles are too skinny, and you can't make a masking tape lump on
them and still use them. I love to sew and do embroidery work, but little
needles cause cramps eventually, so I switch to crochet work for awhile.
I also draw.....and again I use the fattest pencils and pens I can
find....or wrap them in tape.......and anyone can draw......don't say you
can't draw a straight line...... most drawing is curved lines! ; ) And
there are some lovely color-books available that I've used just for
fun......and kids are not allowed to get hold of my big box of crayons,
either.
Speaking of kids......if you want to make some happier memories for
them....try taking them to the pool this summer. You'll find floating in
water feels wonderful, and it's something you can do with your kids. Or
the beach, if you live close enough to the coast. Developing something
crafty or otherwise creative that you can share with your kids might make
good memories, too. My son is the only one of my children who can remember
me chasing him in our back yard.......but his younger sisters remember lying
in the grass with me and watching ants carry bread crumbs away......and
going swimming......and finger-painting......and water-colors.... and
crayons.
I like to go to museums and such with my grand-children.....but I have to
use a wheelchair, or mart-cart, to get around them..........You didn't say
how old your children are......but if they are big enough to reach the
kitchen sink, they are big enough to help you.......and don't beat yourself
up and feel guilty over it! Anything you can do to help your kids learn how
to take care of themselves is a good thing.
My son told his sixth grade class he had fixed spaghetti the night
before.....when one boy said cooking was woman's work, my son informed him
that he'd never wait around for a woman to cook for him. He's an excellent
cook, by the way. And a computer program designer, too. My kids
learned to wash their own clothes, and run the dryer too. At about 12 or 13
years old. And if they didn't have something clean to wear for
school......they learned to keep their laundry done up and off their bedroom
floors. I quit cleaning their rooms for them at about that same
time.....so it's a mess.....I just closed the door so I didn't have to look
at it.
Maybe I was helped by having a mother who also had RA....and my sister and I
did most of the household cleaning from about 12 or 13 years old......our
father did what he called the "heavy" stuff, like mopping and waxing our
hardwood floors.
And feed your brain! If you can get to a community college or university,
take some courses in things that interest you. Most university buildings
are equipped to deal with people who have handicaps today.......and if you
can't afford to pay for courses, look into just auditting some.....no credit
without paying tuition, but you need to feed your brain. There are some
interesting courses you can take on the Internet too......without leaving
home.
Good luck.......
Ardy